Is it cheating if I don’t get caught?

By Louise Sukle
Editor & Publisher
Woman Newspapers

We’ve all had those moments where, technically, we CAN do what we want but then that little voice inside our head says, “Wait up, girl. You’re gonna regret this.”

One of the things we learn when we put on our big-girl pants is that just because we can, doesn’t mean we should (one of my mother’s countless lessons.) Just because we can have a cream-filled donut doesn’t mean it’s good for us. Just because that bottle of wine is sitting in the fridge and we’ve had a really, really bad day doesn’t mean we have the green light to drink the whole bottle tonight.

In other words, just because we have the ability, doesn’t mean it’s the right choice. And it’s not always an either/or scenario. When you live in a free country you can, for the most part, do as you please. But with freedom comes responsibility. Just because you can say and do things, doesn’t mean you should. Here are some simple life lessons I’ve learned:

• You can spend all your free time on Facebook and post whatever’s on your mind but don’t mistake your every thought as share-worthy. If you wouldn’t say it to someone’s face then you shouldn’t post it on social media.

• You can procrastinate on a hateful task (I’m looking at you, dirty dishes) but that still won’t magically eliminate having to do it. In fact, putting it off almost always makes it worse.

• You can blame others for your circumstances but the world doesn’t owe you happiness, health, love, respect or money. You can’t be a victim and a success at the same time.

• You can buy just about anything you’ve ever desired with a credit card but if you can’t afford to pay off the balance at the end of the month, you shouldn’t make the purchase.

Freedom of choice is not about doing whatever you want; it is the willpower to do what’s right. The right choice is what you know you SHOULD be doing. We all need to remember that.